If you don’t love yourself you will always be chasing people who don’t love you either.

“ I PROMISE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND MAKE YOU SMILE. I PROMISE TO GIVE YOU LOVE, AND I PROMISE TO NEVER MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE ALONE. I ALSO PROMISE TO BE NEAR YOU, EVEN IF THERE ARE MILES BETWEEN US”

******IF YOU DON’T LOVE YOURSELF, YOU WILL ALWAYS BE CHASING PEOPLE WHO DON’T LOVE YOU EITHER.******

You can easily see through someone, just by the way they act. If your partner is doing hurtful, thoughtless things with ease, you should question if he still loves you, or ever did love you. This is a hard thing to do for us because when we love someone we will start to tell ourselves that they love us back, even if it’s in their own special way. The hurt that causes you inside your heart is not worth it. The feeling of always being mixed up and confused. When you are loved you know it. I hope that you all love yourself enough to know and see the signs.

Men will know he does not love you, yet continue the relationship. They don’t want to tell you they don’t love you to your face. They might have some sort of respect or care for you, that undefined feeling is the only thing keeping them from telling you to your face, they don’t love you. We usually choose to ignore the signs even though they are right there. We don’t want to accept that our partner does not love us. That our relationship has failed. If you can stop telling yourself that you can save what was long ago broken, you can find a way to save yourself from any more hurt. So be strong, be brave, love yourself, give yourself value, and let go.

A MAN THAT DOES NOT LOVE YOU OR IS NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU WILL…….

  • Ignore you. They start a life of their own. When before you made decisions together. Now they no longer need your advice or ok for things. When you come around them, they act all weird.
  • No communication. When they have no real interest in you they lose the need to communicate with you. If it’s verbal, body language, whichever form of communication, it ends. This is a deep level of it’s over. If you can’t talk especially during difficult times, you are not even being a partner to one another. What is the point of being together if you cannot be there for one another?
  • He avoids you. If he does not love you he will avoid you. Spending time with you is just something they don’t want to do. If he doesn’t come home. Finds reasons to be somewhere else. Just leaves and doesn’t bother to give you a reason. That is no love.
  • He is not involved with you or your life. If you don’t do things together anymore, or anything you might be interested in is irrelevant. If he does not really listen to you or let you finish what you're saying, irrelevant. If he does not validate any of your feelings or emotions, irrelevant.
  • He is mean and says things to hurt you. He is using this behavior to let you know how he feels. It’s easier this way for them instead of them having to just say “I don’t love you”. So they hurt your feelings, and say mean things.
  • He is secretive. If he has to take his phone everywhere he goes. He is hiding something from you. If he doesn’t answer certain phone calls when you're around. If he has everything protected and locked so you won’t know any of his personal things. It’s because he does not love you. People who love one another don’t keep that many secrets, they share with each other, so they can count on each other.
  • He lies to you. Should I say more about this one? If he lies and hides things from you he does not respect you. Plain and simple. He lacks the courage to tell you the truth.
  • He changes from one min. to the next. He loves you and everything is great then all of a sudden he is mad and hurting your feelings. That is probably because he is trying to decide if should leave or not.
  • If he does not feel the need to share things with you. Tell you where he is going, who he is with, or things that are going on in his life. It is because he does not feel the need to anymore. He is going on with his life and has stopped caring about you. Anything you guys once had or shared is now in the past. If he compares you to other girls or has other girls in his life. That is a 100% sign he has no love for you. If he cannot admit when he is wrong and does not care if your feelings are hurt or not he does not love you at all.
  • Basically your partner is supposed to be your best friend, you supposed to be able to talk about everything, share anything, and depend on one another. Your supposed to plan your future together, do things together, want the other person to have your back, and stand at your side. If you don’t have this right now in your life it does not mean it can’t happen. There are plenty of people in the world looking for love and looking to be loved. There is no reason to waste your heart and feelings on someone who does not and will not love you.

A MAN THAT DOES LOVE YOU, OR IS IN LOVE WITH YOU WILL……..

  • Make you his #1 priority.
  • He will want your advice about his life.
  • He makes plans for the future with you, and includes you on everything.
  • He won’t forget the little things.
  • He wants to be close with you and share things about himself with you, and allow you to do the same.
  • He will compliment you.
  • He wants to make you happy.
  • He is protective of you.
  • You can catch him looking at you.
  • He is your biggest fan.

“PAY TWICE AS MUCH ATTENTION TO HOW SOMEONE TREATS YOU THAN WHAT THEY SAY. ANYBODY CAN SAY THEY LOVE YOU, BUT THEIR BEHAVIOR DOES NOT LIE.”

NO LONGER ACCEPT WHO DOES NOT VALUE

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I long ago realized that we make it harder on ourselves to be happy & to find love. After several failed attempts of my own. Now I'm in pursuit of both.

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